Duncan Keegan's Validation with his son Ruairí through Marc Anthony

Duncan Keegan's Validation with his son Ruairí through Marc Anthony

Ruairí and Duncan / The Rainbow / Mark Anthony

Dear Mark Anthony, I just wanted to send you a message about a recent gallery reading (July 9th 2024) that you did for Helping Parents Heal and that I got to watch a recording of the next day (July 10th). I’m sure you get messages like this all the time, so it’s really more for me to get it down in words so that it doesn’t just slip away with the passage of time.

We lost our boy Ruairí (pronounced very like ‘Rory’) in February 2023. He had never been seriously sick before, but suddenly, he was gone. I found HPH in the months after, subscribed to their newsletter and some time after, their YouTube channel. But truth be told, I never watched the recordings; when not being there for Ruairí’s mom and sister, I would spend my time praying, reading and more often than not, just talking to him. And whenever I opened the YouTube app, I was more inclined to watch about end-of-life care, as I’m hoping to start volunteering with a local hospice later this year.

The morning of July 10th though, your gallery reading popped up and I just felt like I needed to watch it. I’d already listened to a few of your audiobooks on Audible last year, and I had found your experiences as a medium shared in those books both credible and reassuring. But it was really more the feeling that I needed to watch this one that got me to hit play.

So I did.

When you opened with the remarks on spirits coming through with commonalities, it struck me, and I thought that perhaps there would be something from Ruairí.

Sabrina (the young girl with dark hair) coming through first didn’t exactly augur well, but the pain in the head and quick passing did. And then she held out chocolate eclairs - they’re my favourite treat. I did get a new tv after Ruairí passed (with much emotion, as me and him used to spend most evenings before bed watching his favourite shows together), but as that’s almost a year ago by now, I didn’t think I could lay too much on that.

And then came the clover and March and Irish heritage: as you might know from his name, we’re Irish and live in Ireland (though my amazing wife is American and moved here after graduating from college). And Ruairí was born in 2017.

We get a lot of beacon signals from him, so I enjoyed the conversation with Sabrina’s parents on that topic.

Then you saying a brain bleed is a commonality completely lines up with how Ruairí left this world (though he didn’t have a brain bleed). Here’s another: even with the age disparity, the energetic, rough and tumble quality of Gloria’s son was so reminiscent of Ruairí, who in this way is quite different from his older sister. (He was also wild about cars and ‘roadsters’ and would often comment frankly on how I can’t drive, so perhaps Ruairí was saying I’m the lousy driver!)

The vibration at 23 minutes makes me think of how our son first fell ill: he started having seizures. When they moved him to the ICU, he was placed on a ventilator. And when the time came, we had to make the decision to remove all life-sustaining support. And this is one where I really hope Gloria’s son’s message to his mom is also a message from our boy to us, because there’s not a day we don’t look back and wonder if there was something we could have done differently.

My wife’s mother had a sister, Betsy, who died tragically in an automobile accident in the 1970s, so I’d like to think he’s got lots of family keeping him company.

Again at 32 minutes with him being like a ball of energy, and that he went quick. Ruairí used to play (along with his sister) with Charlie, who lives right across from our house. Ruairí died in the evening, in February, so well after sunset. And my grief was (and occasionally still is) localised in my heart, very much in a physically heart-rending, heart-splitting way. But I’ve been for check-ups and I’m determined to take more care of myself in terms of doctor appointments and exercise.

Ruairí and I used to love watching the Tinkerbell movies together.

We had a frog living in our back garden the last few years. On Halloween night, the autumn before we lost him, the frog got into the house and I had to go back from the local fireworks display to get it out of the house. The frog also appeared at our back door, which is glass, the morning after Ruairí died. And in Irish folk tradition, a frog in the house is a warning of death, though I didn’t know it at the time.

Ruairí had beautiful red hair. I miss his red hair.

I noticed the suddenness of Nancy’s son’s death, and how suddenly everyone on that gallery reading appears to have passed. And I have dreams of Ruairí, as Nancy does.

And God bless Dani, what a loss to go through.

There were a few resonances there too, but I’ll leave it there, Mark. I know some of these might sound like reaching, but if you’re connecting with a level of consciousness that is like the idea of quantum superposition in physics, where two or more spirits are in a shared state, and then when you read for a person, a constellation of commonalities drops down into our everyday awareness, then I imagine it’s the most natural thing in the world that there would be this incredible yet subtle dialogue where the “words” are made up of ideas, songs, images, and sensations, as you translate between those in the “superposition” state and the ones you read for.

And just as I was writing the first email, Ruairí’s sister left a message telling me to look for a big rainbow outside (whenever he was asked what his favourite colour was, he’d always say “rainbow!”)

Thanks for everything you do. God bless and be happy.

Warm regards,
Duncan Keegan
Dublin, Ireland
20 July 2024

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